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It seems like a good idea to me, but you ladies always offer interesting views on things like this so I thought this would be a fun conversation

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I’m not trying to defend DV or rape in any way. But putting it on your passport etc just seems to be taking it too far. I’m not interested in re-enacting The Scarlet Letter.

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I don’t agree with it on documentation. I can only see that leading to abuse of someone actually trying to rehabilitate and reintegrate into society. 
They already can remove children at birth for certain convictions. It’s just rarely done. It has to be pretty horrific past abuse. Many people are capable of being good parents despite their past. 
The marriage one seems like a good idea.

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I somewhat disagree with not being able to see their children if they have been charged with domestic violence only because I've learned that you can be arrested and charged with that for just scratching a spouse, sometimes spouses lie and create stories as a vengeful way so they can have full custody. My boss is a lawyer who handles divorces and this happens a good bit I've been told. I know a woman who did just that. Not to mention people with anger issues can get rehabilitation help and get better, not all, but some. I think it should depend on the case and what happened. Everything else I totally agree with though!

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The first few points yes I could see that. But putting it on documents that you regularly need to show off might be taking it too far.

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Not that im defending these criminals, but I feel this is a bit excessive.

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Well. The thing is they will be punished forever and ever if this happens. Rape is unforgivable, yes, but if they go to prison and do a fair amount of time for their crime, then why continue to punish them further? Wouldn't they already be on a sex offenders list? I think for REPEAT offenders, sure, but for first timers then no I don't think this is a good idea.

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No. Thats excessive. People change.

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I'm all for it being disclosed to a future spouse while applying for marriage licenses, it could literally save lives but I'm against the rest of it. It doesn't need to be printed on official documents as such because if you were going to another country for more than just a holiday your criminal record is looked at as part of your application so it's not hidden from people who need to know.
I also don't agree with loosing access to children, people can be terrible partners but amazing parents, others can be amazing partners but terrible parents, the two relationships are completely different and don't really have a correlation to each other. Then you have to look at instances of mental health, substance abuse, other outside factors that can cause aggressive behaviours but they can also be worked through in many cases. Then on top of that you have the malicious people who claim there was abuse when there wasn't, it would be too open to abuse.

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No no no, Way too far.  Documentation is 100% pass. As far as children, I'd  still have to pass to an extent.

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So let’s shame and mark the person for the rest if their life. Even if they have changed. I’m not defending their actions. But damn. Shockingly people do change

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