Gender disappointment should it be something you bring up to a therapist ?

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So I saw a post today about a woman that she was really disappointed about not having the gender she wanted . She went on to say “whoopdie do another boy” obviously with a lot of sarcasm to it . I also saw someone comment that she she go see a professional . But my thing is do you really think it’s something you should bring up to a professional or something that you should just brush off . I mean I know some of my friends lasted awhile with gender disappointment awhile until they started getting more used to the fact of having a boy/girl . But i think to be that upset about it is a bit too much what are y’all thoughts

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I think if your disappointment over the gender outweighs your excitement of having a healthy baby then it’s definitely a problem

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only the person experiencing the disappointment can decide whether or not it’s enough to see someone about it.

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This is a real thing. Gender disappointment is real and is valid. You should not allow anyone to tell you that your irrational for this. However, you are irrational when it starts taking over your life. You become depressed because of it and you no longer have that excitement. As some one else said .. if the disappointment outweighs the general want of a healthy child. Then I'd say yea .. maybe you need to talk to someone.

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I think that’s a very personal thing and can only be decided by the person experiencing the disappointment. I also think it’s not your place to judge if they do or do not need professional help.

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Initial sex disappointment  is pretty normal and common. Now if it's  going to depress you, and have you feel some  type  of way towards the child.  I'd  deff think she should seek help. It shouldnt be that deep that 24 hours later you're still stressing  it

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That’s the great thing about other people’s feelings: YOU don’t get to decide if they’re valid or not. If someone is upset about anything, we don’t get to decide whether it’s legitimate, “too much,” or should be “brushed off.”

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Why shouldn't they see a therapist? If it's something that's upsetting them so much and causing a block to the happiness of their pregnancy. It's not some fickle thing, it's a real issue that many women face and really struggle to come to terms with.

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My sisters sister in law (that’s a mouthful) was so disappointed that she was having a girl, she put her up for adoption. Then went to have three more children after her. She’s birthed 7 kids, but only kept 5 of them. I wonder if in extreme cases it could be considered a part of mental illness? Not gender disappointment itself, but how you react to it? I know it’s very common.

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It depends. I know sometimes it can get out of hand. I’ve heard of parents bringing up boys as girls and vice versa. It messes kids up. If it’s just ‘oh damn, I really wanted a girl. Oh well.’ and you carry on going about your business as normal, then I don’t think therapy is necessary.

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If it gets to the point where it damages your mental health then yes.

Gender disappointment should it be something you bring up to a therapist ?

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