So I’ve been with my boyfriend Chad for almost 6 months now. Everything started off great, he was the perfect gentleman.

I recently joined a sorority, and from the start he was against it. If any of you know Greek life, you know it’s very ceremonial and some things we do aren’t allowed to be talked about (My sorority is very anti-hazing so none of that happened). When I told him I couldn’t tell him everything I did in it, he got really defensive and said it’s wrong of me to not tell him. One night we got into a fight and he made fun of me for being in a sorority. I called him crying about it and he promptly apologized and begged me to forgive him. So I did.

I’ve also been feeling really bad about my body lately, so my sex drives been really low. He always makes comments about how we don’t have sex and it just makes me feel worse because I can’t control it.

After my first mixer for my sorority, he walked me home and then started a huge fight with me because I was “too drunk” and he ended up throwing his cell phone against the wall, telling me he was breaking up with me, and leaving. But then later he begged me to stay with him, so I did.

My friends and even my family tell me he’s had for me, but I can’t picture my life without him. He always apologizes for his mistakes, but I just don’t feel like this is a healthy relationship. He always says he acts like he does because he’s not used to “a real relationship.” But this can’t keep happening.

I’m still young, so I’ve never really learned how I’m supposed to be treated.

If you’ve read this far, thank you. I’m just confused and torn about what to do. I love him and I’ve tried talking to him about everything, but eventually it all goes back to how it was before.