Help...

Erica

I moved up north for school and met this amazing guy. I’ve been treated really badly by the last few guys, from stalkers, aggressors, to rape. And he is the first guy I’ve met that has treated me so passionately and lovingly. I’m struggling with major depression disorder since my mom died a few years ago, and he’s been the only person in my life to be gentle, patient and caring. Even when my depression gets really bad some days. We’ve been together for a while and graduation is next year so he’s been talking about moving in together back home( we happen to have hometowns relatively close). I thought everything was perfect but I found out he’s still not over his ex(even though he’s the one who left her). He’s constantly telling me how bad the relationship was and how much happier he is with me. But last month I found out he has been lying and smudging the truth when it comes to things involving her since the beginning of our relationship. He hasn’t cheated, but he keeps pushing boundaries when it comes to her. I said if we are to move past this I need to know that he wants to move on. So he deleted everything and blocked her on everything. I’ve been trying to get over how often he had lied. I told him one more incident and I’m going to leave. Last night I asked him if he’s been unblocking her to look through her social media and he lied to me again(I knew he had). I called him out on it and I can’t help but feel hurt. He said he doesn’t want to get with her but he looks because he misses her, but swore he’d never act on it. He knew that doing would hurt me and ruin our relationship if he did it, but he did it anyways. I don’t think looking at other social media is a big deal but since there were some incidents early on, I asked him to block her so I can see he’s trying to move on. But it seems he doesn’t want to move on from her. Not even for us. What do I do? I love this guy more than anyone. And it’s not the action he did but the fact that he keeps lying when it comes to her and acting like his feelings for her are more important than us.