If anyone remembers my last post, it’s about the same guy. But basically there’s a guy I live with who I am friends with but who can be sexist and manipulative and belittling. I talked to him about it over message when I was at home for Christmas even though I did tell him I’d rather do it in person. But we ended up talking, I wasn’t bitchy or anything, I just literally stated that he’s been hurting my feelings for the past couple of months but I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to cause drama.

Anyway, in those messages I kept trying to tell him the specifics of what he’s done so he understood and wouldn’t do it again but all he kept replying was ‘I’ve apologised, I don’t know what else you want me to do’ and so I ended up not saying everything and he just ended it with ‘I don’t wanna keep reiterating this, let’s just move on’

I got really black out drunk on Friday and apparently said some horrible things to him along the lines of what I had messaged him about but I honestly don’t remember. And now he is absolutely furious with me and refuses to talk to me. He said that he had been waiting for me to bring things up in person but I never did. I didn’t bring it up because he said ‘let’s just move on’, and so I tried. And I thought we were doing okay, and I have been standing up for myself whenever he did those things that made me angry.

I guess this is just a rant because he’s making me feel like the bad guy and has basically said our friendship is over and we shouldn’t even talk about this stuff but we’re going on holiday with our other flatmate and we’re living together next year so we’re sort of stuck with each other. I don’t think I’m the bad guy... but I also don’t know what I said when I was drunk which is frustrating the hell out of me.

Am I the bad guy?