My daughter hates me???

Question

Every time I put her down for bed at night, even though I do the SAME exact routine as everyone else, she SCREAMS as if someone is torturing her for like an hour. Even if we go in there and try to comfort her she just screams harder. So wtf do we do. This is awesome! Great! She’s had plenty of milk today, didn’t wanna drink it when we were reading a story, so I put her down with a cup of water and she’s screaming so hard that she’s choking and gasping for air...like...???? Do I just let her scream? I mean she’s screaming like she can’t even breathe and shes twitching and looks possessed. Also she does this every time I put her down. Whenever her dad puts her down there’s no issue. Whether he uses milk or not. It’s been a half hour she’s still screaming even thiugh we both have gone back in there tried to comfort her. Nothings working. Oh, and not to mention, her dad broke up with me so I’ll be moving out and can’t wait to have to do this alone! Especially since I’ll live in an apartment She’ll just be screaming nonstop I guess. Feel like the worst fucking mother ever. She doesn’t even get better when I try to comfort her. And it’s not night terrors because it’s literally just when I’m the one who puts her down to bed. I can’t do this. Especially not alone. Idk what to do

Answer

It’s the total opposite. Your baby loves you so much she doesn’t want to be without you. I don’t agree with the fact that you can her tantrums or she’s doing it to stress you out. It sounds like your baby is more high needs, in that case. My friend’s daughter is the same exact way.  When they come over for play dates and when my friend goes to use the bathroom she has a complete meltdown and it takes A LONG time for her to calm down even after she comes out. She has the same problem with putting her to bed. If you have tried everything, I think you just have to wait until she outgrows it. If going is making it worse, maybe try the extinction method.

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She is definitely doing that because she knows that it stresses you out. 
Personally, my husband and I decided that our well-being was more important than my son falling asleep on his own. We found a routine that my son can fall asleep with and we can still be able to sleep without feeling guilty/stressed out. 
My son knows how to throw a melt down. He knows how to make me and my husband feel guilty. We don’t let him because that just fuels the fire. 
Your well-being is important because your daughter can sense that and it effects her well-being. If this isn’t working, do something else. It won’t be this way forever.

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My daughter does the same she will give me the blues but her father has no problem with her . But she’s grown accustomed to naps and going to bed on her own I’m more worried about transitioning her from her play pen to her toddler bed . She’s only lashing out bc she can sense the distress it causes you my Little one does the same . I just let her cry it out its hard but you have to do it sometimes .

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how does eventually fall asleep? on her own or with your help?

My daughter hates me???

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