My boyfriend and I are both virgins and we've been "exploring" each other for a few months before actually having sex. We trust and love each other and we're best friends. I've seen him naked and he's seen me topless, but he wants to look down there and that's a problem for me. Now, I'm a confident person. I like my body, except for that one part. My skin is brown and I'm a few shades darker down there and I hate it. I'm pretty insecure about it because we're taught the whiter and pinker the vulva is, the better. And that if it's dark, then it's gross. My own mom has body shamed me many times because of it, telling me if she was me, she wouldn't even look in the mirror. He's touched me many times and sometimes he asks me to let him look down there so he can see what he's doing and I never let him and though I can tell he gets a bit disappointed - he seems to think he's the problem, that I might not trust him - he never pushes me. It'll have to happen one day but thinking about it makes me feel uncomfortable. Looking at it makes me uncomfortable and ashamed even though I know it's not my fault my skin is naturally dark. Should I maybe talk to him about this?