It has been about 4 months since I've had my baby boy and my mother, who lives in the same state, have not met him once. Every weekend there's a promise that she's coming to visit, EVERY WEEKEND, 😔 and then I don't hear from her, unless I call. I usually give it a week between promises before I video call yet again, so she can see him and talk to him.

She's a home health aid so I understand that she may have to work or just tired, however every day I see at least one post or photo of her hanging out at her cousin's bar or out shopping. If she works nights, she's at that bar all day, if she works days, she's there all night. I have 2 brothers living with her, who barely sees her. Thank God they're 19 and 14yrs old.

My mom changed alot over the last 4 yrs. First she suddenly decided that she was a lesbian, after having 6 children and just as many marriages. She moved away and married a woman. After that fell apart, she came back and started dating men again. Well men and women. She has no time for her kids or grandkids, nothing but partying and sleeping around.

My mother in law comes from a couple states over on a regular, she has been here twice since the baby and is currently planning her next visit. My father came from Trinidad, a 7hr flight and my mother can't drive an hr?

It's always one excuse after the next, she even went so far as to say the tire pressure in her brand new car was fluctuating, so she didn't think it was safe driving so far, in case the tire was punctured. 😒

At first, I thought she was going through a midlife crisis but my father said that one of the reasons they divorced so long ago, was because she was always in a club that he had to drag her out of. She even left me at home as a baby, alone to go hang out. I also remember spending more time with my great grandma, aunts and uncles more than I did with her. I kinda lived with my father for a few years too.

I don't know how to handle it, it hurts my heart that she really don't care. She talks all this family stuff but then chooses the hang out, over us. I wanna just stop calling her, unfriend her on Facebook so I don't see her life and just leave it alone. Whenever she comes around, she does.

I thank God for my amazing in laws, they're here wherever I need them. They'll even watch the kids on occasion or come over to celebrate the kids' birthdays or visit when one of us is in the hospital. I don't wanna disown my mother but I've gotta let her go