CRAZY IN LAWS

So, let me start off by saying, my in laws are crazy. That includes all of them Mom, Dad, and Sisters. My husbands sisters have been so rude to my face multiple times. Calling me names, talking shit about me infront of their kids. (The kids tell me all about it because they love me.) They hate that their kids love me ETC.

My MIL is always in our business. Asking us what we are doing constantly and why we aren’t doing it her and my FIL way. She is constantly asking questions and expecting for me and my husband to do everything that she says. Involving everything.

My FIL was in the military, he is a real hard ass. Always saying, “I can’t learn anything from you two,” “I waisted my money putting you through college,” (Even though my husband graduated and is very successful.) “You are so disappointing.” ETC

Well, recently my husband and I have been trying to buy a house. And here we go, with his mom, “OMG did you buy a house?” *scrolling through our bank info* (My husband and I are working on getting checks and switching to a new bank. It’s complicated ok.) *proceeds to ask us over and over* Now look, we weren’t ready to talk to people about this yet, we were just paying Earnest Money, like we are getting the house inspected next week. NOTHING IS OFFICIAL. But, here she goes, being nosey, asking questions, telling us what we should do. Now, I’m not on good terms with her and I don’t speak to her (she hates that I stay out of all the drama they have.) but i finally message her and say, in short, “can you stop asking so many questions, we will let you know when we are ready to make announcements to people.”

Well, this turns into a texting argument for hours. It gets us no where. I try to explain we just want some privacy sometimes. Well, then she starts calling me names, accusing that I keep my husband from her, and that I hate her granddaughters. (?????) (Even though I’m their fav person??? Make sense??? NOT)

So, at this point my husband is mad. He stands his ground and sticks up for me. Then it’s an argument in between them. (May I just add, while we were arguing, he was telling her to stop being so nosey all the time too. It wasn’t just me that was annoyed.)

Things settle down, nothing gets resolved, and we just go to bed. WELL THIS IS WHAT WE WAKE UP TO.

Okay, so some backstory. My husband got a Nissan as a graduation gift. Our phone are on their plan SIMPLY because it’s cheaper. WE PAY FOR OUR PHONES AND OUR BILLS. When he refers to the “help” he has given us, he is referring to helping us get insurance so my husband could have SPINE SURGERY.

Needless to say, I’m extremely pissed. I’m fed up. I’m tired of his family running over me and dangling material things above our heads. So, I have a few questions. The car is in both of their names and it was a gift, legally he can’t take it, right? We don’t really care about the phone thing.

They are being extremely childish and crazy. Do you guys think so?? What am I supposed to do?? We want to have SOME things to ourselves. SOME kind of privacy life... I feel like it’s not fair. His mom never let him go. She helicopters.

JUST SO FED UP.

EDIT: Thank you for all of the comments. Some people seem to be getting confused on some things...

#1 We do NOT live with my In-Law’s. (You couldn’t pay me enough money in the world.)

#2 The car is NOT in my name. It is in my husbands and my FILs. It was a gift for graduation.

#3 We have our own bank account already. But, we have checks with the bank account that they can see. We need the checks to buy our house.

Hope this clears some things up!