I just joined this group and I hope with good timing.

I need some advise.

I was in an emotionally, narsistic, drugged up marriage. for about 5 years. from 6 mos in it wasn't working. he had an affair I called him out. and from there it just got worse. I stayed with him far too long... because we had two children and I'd hoped it'd "fix him" it all came down to him being so method out that he passed out with our two children (4 and 2) and they got outside and went across the street by themselves. my youngest wa naked and cold. my eldest helped open the doors and told the neighbor he couldn't wake up his daddy.

the cops were called, and at that moment in time I decided it was enough. we fled, put a restraining order on him and we've been moving forward ever since and thriving!!!

Now, fast forward, it's been since last July that we left, and even longer that I've wanted to be happy and find someone new. recently someone I've known for about 8 years came back into my life... as of last week after spending about a month together we made our relationship official. and my mind is already feeling like a relapse episode of self doubt and victimized behavior. there's no reason for these thoughts accept what I have been put through with my stax. and I'm hoping someone else or many maybe here, can help me reverse this thinking to help me become stronger.