He won't do oral?!

My husband wants BJs all the time but I wouldn't let him go down on me our whole relationship because I was dealing with abuse issues.

Well I'm finally ready and I told him I was. He wouldn't do it. He's actually never gone down on a girl. I asked him why he wouldn't and he said it smelled.

I'm confused because he used to get so frustrated that I wouldn't let him before I told him about the abuse issues.

I took a shower before I asked him to and am a clean person and it didnt smell it just smelled like a normal vagina...

So now I'm stuck and don't know what to do. Does this mean we're sexually incompatible? It will never happen?

I'm sad and frustrated because I've been through counciling and finally got to the point where I'm ready and never imagined this happening. It's causing so much anxiety and self doubt :(

Edit: Stopping giving him BJs or withholding sex doesn't help me. It's not about power and control.