i got blamed for getting disowned?

i was young and dumb when i was 18, i just started my life, my 1st job, i was able to go out finally at this age. it was also when i met my husband, who was 25 at that time. he was a divorce 2x, my parents didnt like it, so they disapprove us of dating. but i still dated him anyways. my parents wanted him to come prove to them hes not a bad guy. he has tried a few times, but didnt want to anymore after what they said about him when i told them about our agrument. they found out i was still dating him after being on and off, i got smack, ran away, no friends would help me, so i went to him instead. he told me to run away w him so we can be together. we ended up marrying, and his real dad decided to disown him because he said he doubts our marriage is going to last. he said his son doesnt take marriage seriously and doesnt treat his wives well. anyways, 4yrs now, still married w 2 kids. his dad said he never meant it, he was only saying it so that he would take life seriously. but his mom acts like its my fault his dad disowned him, knowing the fact that it was his fault he failed 2 marriages. or is she right?