Sex😕

So obviously finding the time in general is hard with a 4 month old. But my husband works nights so it makes it that much harder. But how do you ladies find the time, and how do you feel sexy again? I don’t feel sexy what so ever so having sex never seems very appealing to me. Also is it still hurting for you ladies? We haven’t had sex for like atleast a month or so so I’m not sure how I feels now but last time It hurt and was so uncomfortable. I need sex advice. How do you guys feel sexy again? That’s my main thing. All I feel like is a chubby busted can of biscuits/milk cow. 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄