Tips for orgasm

My partner and I have been together for almost 3 years and I’ve probably only orgasmed once. I don’t know what it is no matter what he does or how hard I concentrate it just doesn’t happen. We’ve tried positions and stuff but it only makes me want to pee. I’m starting to loose my sex drive because he always cums and I don’t. I just barley look forward to it anymore.

I can achieve an orgasm by myself though I should add!

Does anyone have any tips please help a sista out 😩😩