Is it fair to force your child to make/get you a Mother’s Day gift?

Before I explain let me preface this by saying that I have nothing against Mother’s Day.

That being said, growing up my mother wasn’t such a great mother for many reasons. To make a long story short she used her mental disabilities as an excuse to be abusive and negligent. Every year my mom would nag and “remind” me that Mother’s Day was coming and that she’s expecting something from me, in the most obnoxious ways possible. I have a brother and she never expected nearly as much from him but demanded it from me.

To give an example, my bother and I each were given $20 dollars, by my brother’s Father (he was long divorced from my mom) two weeks AFTER Mother’s Day as spending money for ourselves. Growing up poor my brother and I (I was like 14) didn’t get money often I wasn’t able to buy her something when Mother’s Day had PASSED two weeks before that. Well being a 14 year old I spent my 20 dollars on a game, and my mom proceeded to give me the silent treatment, then argued with me and made me feel like crap for a few days because I didn’t buy her anything with the measly 20 dollars I got two weeks after Mother’s Day had passed. Oh and btw I actually made something for her!

That’s just one example of many years of that kind of crap. As a mom now, I still get angry over her behavior because I feel like that’s something that should be given from the heart and not nagged about. I don’t do things for my son because I expect a gift from him or to throw it in his face and demand things but because I love him.

So basically my question is, is it right to demand gifts and such from your children? Or is it something they should do from their hearts without being asked?