How do I learn to trust?

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Hey girls I just really want to know ways to better trust my boyfriend? I’m really insecure due to my weight and I have major trust issues. We’ve been together for nearly 6 months and I still don’t fully trust him. I always think he’s talking to other girls and stuff. He truly loves me and he’s sick of me accusing him of talking to other girls and I’m honestly sick of it too. I checked his phone today which he rarely lets me do and there was nothing on it so I really have nothing to worry about although I still worry! So yeah I’m just wandering if any of you girls have some tips or advice? (Please no one say stuff about leaving him or the fact that I have to love myself before I love anyone else because I don’t even know if I’d be myself if I didn’t have him)

A pic of us😊

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The codependency of your last sentence makes me want to shake you.

And if you don’t like your body, then change it.

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Based on the last few words you said,  there's really no advice to give.  There's no way to teach you how to get over your insecurities,  especially if he hasn't given you any reasons to not trust him.  You gotta work on that yourself and also,  no reason to tell you to leave him,  he may actually be a good guy but I can tell you,  you're pushing him out with your searching and unwarranted accusations.

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You will need to realise that love goes waaay deeper than skin deep. It’s his soul that’s attracted to your soul, and your soul that’s attracted to his soul. 
You need to accept the fact that one day your relationship might end. But do you really want your jealous and mistrust to be the reason for your relationship is cut short? 
You need to communicate with your boyfriend and let him know that your mistrust stems from your own insecurities. Let him know that you do have faith and trust in his character but you still have doubts and fears that come from deep within you. Once you’ve told him that you both need to work together to establish some healthy boundaries and habits so that you don’t get anxious or worried about something that hasn’t happened yet. 
You need to let him know that when you bring up other girls, you’re not accusing him of cheating, but rather asking for reassurance. 
You could even benefit from seeing a psychologist. But if you don’t have funds to access a psychologist I would suggest you read up on relationships and confidence and trust online. There’s heaps of info out there that can help you.

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See a counsellor. Unfortunately there's no magic words that can cure trust issues, however thought challenging may help. When you have a negative thought, call yourself out on it. Say to yourself (out loud if you're alone) something like "This thought is irrational. It's my trust issues. There is no reason for me to distrust him. This thought is unhelpful" Sounds cringe but it can actually help if you make the effort to keep doing it

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Even though you don’t want to hear it, I don’t care... you need to find yourself, be confident, and know your worth before getting into a relationship. All of your insecurities are going to hurt your relationship & push him away.

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stop letting your mind control your thoughts and happiness your weight looks fine you guys make a cute couple stop worrying and enjoy each other before you loose this wonderful man you have