Story Time!

Okay ladies- so as a disclaimer I’d like you all to know that I’m fully aware that I’m being petty. But I’m going to vent anyway.

I have this sister-in-law (SIL) who has been making my life hell since my husband I started dating at 14. She has been part of the family longer since she’s 10 years older than us and she never lets me forget it. She is pushy, competitive, controlling, manipulative and underhanded.

Some of her crowning jewels include taking over my wedding and insisting upon alterations to her dress to make her stand out as well as choosing different shoes for herself without my knowledge until the day of the wedding. Like some kind of delusional princess.

She also changes any story she ever tells from its previous version to make her life sound more sad/difficult/exciting than yours. She does this really fun thing where she makes up stories about members of the family and spreads them around in order to cause arguments. We have all learned not to trust a word of what she says at this point but it made life hell there for a while.

I won’t even get started on how she treats her little girls because that could turn into a whole thread of its own. She constantly talks about how she wanted them to be boys right in front of them. Basically she pits them against one another so they compete for her affection and she’s constantly telling them there is something wrong with them so they have to be medicated/follow certain rules/not leave the house etc. It feels a little munchausen’s by proxy sometimes. They are 11 and 4.

By far her worst offense was when our other SIL miscarried right after crazy SIL announced her own pregnancy and she tormented SIL for taking attention off of her by losing her baby. She was pissed that she wasn’t being constantly and publicly celebrated around our other SIL because we were trying to be considerate of her feelings.

Anyways, in January my husband and I found out we were expecting! We told the family (including SIL from hell) in February. For the last 4 years since she had her second daughter SIL has been insisting that she and her hubby were done having babies. Brother in law had even scheduled a vasectomy at one point that ended up being canceled (and never rescheduled) due to last minute travel changes.

As soon as we announced SIL suddenly wants another baby. It had been a topic of discussion that my in-laws have been waiting for a grandson for a long time. They of course love their grand daughters but found the idea of a grandson exciting. My father in law once made a comment to SIL and I that we would have to see who gave him a grandson first. I laughed it off but she took it more seriously.

Side note, FIL should not have made that comment but this was before her full on crazy came out and we thought she had a sense of humor.

Anyway, we had a gender reveal a few weeks ago and of course we are expecting a perfect baby boy!

We were thrilled! Right after the reveal everyone was hugging us and congratulating us. SIL didn’t make eye contact or say a word and left immediately after we found out. I would be lying if I said I didn’t get some satisfaction out of her bad attitude but she could’ve at least pretended to be happy for us.

Well yesterday she made the announcement at my MILs birthday dinner that she and her hubby were going to start TTC again. As a side note shes never announced anything before until she was pregnant. We of course all acted excited for her even though we all hoped she wouldn’t bring any more kids into her toxic situation.

Anyways, I’m just being pouty because this me and hubby’s first baby and we were enjoying having this time for ourselves and celebrating the new life we are bringing into the world. She got pregnant right after our other SIL announced her pregnancy and insisted that attention be on her at all times. She even went so far as to schedule her baby shower in the same weekend as our first SIL. Nothing ended up coming of that since SIL #1 miscarried but still.

Basically I’m just not in the mood to try to compete with her and I was enjoying having my own pregnancy that she wasn’t constantly going to be making comparisons about. Secretly part of me hopes she does get pregnant and has another girl. Ideally she wouldn’t get pregnant at all due to how she treats her current children. I know another daughter would take the same mistreatment so realistically it would be better for them to have a boy. But it would bring me a tiny bit of secret joy to see pink at their gender reveal.

Anyways! If you stuck it out this long, thanks for your commitment! Also if you ever want to vent about crazy family I have an open ear and tons of sympathy for that.

Posting anonymously just in case she decided to get the app since she is TTC.