“Friend” texting MY husband how awful I am.

Okay so long story short, we have friends who are also married, they’ve been really good friends to us but they can be judgmental and rude and my husband and I usually lets it slide.

The wife invited my husband and I swimming and I’m pregnant and I feel like my body is awkward now and don’t have a good swimsuit that fits me anymore so I declined and so did my husband. She told me that just because I’m pregnant doesn’t mean I can’t live. I agreed with her and assured her I was living, I just don’t want to go swimming.

The next day, we are volunteer firefighters and we got a call for a grass fire. I tagged along but I only gave out water bottles, sat in the AC of the truck and waited for my husband to return. I was no where near the smoke, and again I was sitting in the AC drinking my own water. I shot a text in our group chat of the four of us how I was excited to be at the grass fire even though I wasn’t doing anything. And I proceeded to say I was living because of what I was doing. She took great offense to it and thought I was being rude to her because she “can’t do anything” because of her newborn. She proceeded to exclaim how I wasn’t being careful and how i shouldn’t have even gone and how could I do that but not go swimming. I told her I didn’t want to go swimming, again. Anyway, this started a great big ordeal. A couple days pass and she’s texting my husband privately about how negative I am and how awful I am to him. I believe that’s crossing real boundary and completely disrespectful. So I today I broke off my friendship with them and said because I felt real boundaries had been crossed because I’m sure she wouldn’t like t if I texted her husband awful things I think about her. She legit was basically telling my husband he needs better. He defended me through it all but my feelings are hurt because I lost what I thought was a friend. And I feel like sometimes I can’t talk to my husband about my hurt feelings because it overwhelms him and he freaks out. (He’s seeking help with that). But it causes me to stay in a rut. I just needed to vent 😩