Anyone else been to their 36 week cervix exam and not be dilated? 😞

Just feeling discouraged. I’ve been in so much pain and have had BH and my body is still not cooperating. I am 50% effaced though. But with my first born I was 80% effaced for a while and I never dilated until 15 mins before I started pushing him out. I feel like this pregnancy is just going to be a repeat. Anyone have any tips on how I can make myself dilate? It sucks dilating all at once and feeling the pain all at once. It would nice to be dilated over time...