Guys. It's hard, we broke up more than 4 years ago. I have been in a new relationship for more than a year with a fantastic guy and my ex still tries to manipulate and control me. Especially while i have been trying to distance myself from him as much I reasonably can while still co-parenting. Only recently he claimed the fact he wasn't in control as much as he wanted was making him ill. Bearing in mind he only has her either one or two nights every two weeks so I am very much the one who looks after her most of the time!

Recently he has taken to calling me the day he is supposed to pick up my daughter and telling me that he wont pick her up until the morning after. Which is hard for my daughter to be messed around and not know if he will show up or not! And when I called him out on it he told me this.

Now. If this is true (and it's a big if!) I don't want my daughter to be in danger obviously! But I also think if it is true then there must be something very wrong with him physically and he should get it checked out. But I don't want to let myself get pulled into trying to sort his problems either. He suggested we both go away and try to think of a solution. It's such a hard balance to strike between trying to successfully co-parent. But also to not let myself be messed around or end up somehow responsible for sorting his problems! And I have been struggling to think straight with these kinds of things recently. Any advice on how I could handle the situation would be very gratefully received!!!