Not sure what to do

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My bf and I have been dating for about 9 months and we only see each other on the weekends and our sex is good but it could be better if that makes sense. Sometimes he chokes me but that only lasts like ten seconds 😭 and I’ve definitely like told him some things that I’m into but... it just never happens. And I’m more of a I like to be told what to do kinda girl so I just don’t know how to get him on the same page I guess.