how do i tell him withiut hurting his feelings?

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So my boyfriend has a bad habit of when he wants to have sex and I say no that he will continue to ask about 2 or 3 more times one right after the other. It bothers me that he keeps asking after I say no. I would understand if it was like few hours later or only a couple times a day, but it's literally I'll say no and he will ask if I'm sure about it 2 or 3 more times I guess thinking it'll change my mind. I want to tell him that it bothers me but I'm not sure how to tell him and not hurt his feelings. Does anyone have any ideas on how I could tell him with out it hurting his feelings?

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Just tell him it bothers you. If it hurts his feelings then maybe he needs to reevaluate his priorities.

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If his feelings get hurt over this very simple conversation, then bottom line- he isn't mature enough for a sexual relationship.  Period.

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I honestly wouldn’t be with someone who didn’t respect when I say no. I would sit down with him once and tell him that no doesn’t mean keep asking or try to convince me, it means no. And then if he did It again I would leave 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don’t fuck around with people who don’t respect me

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Don’t worry about his feelings on this - he’s not worried about yours! 
You don’t need to be nasty, but there’s no reason to treat him delicately either.  Just say “it’s really disrespectful when you don’t believe my answer, and I need you to stop asking repeatedly when I’ve already said no.”

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omg I swear we are sisters...lol my husband does this all the time....like I have told him plenty of time that I'm not in the mood or turned on an he stills tries.He would keep asking until I just snap... that only works sometimes

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You can actually open his eyes to the fact that the widely believed myth that women really want it even when they say no is totally false and that pressurising somebody into having sex so they have it because they are tired of the other somebody insisting doesn't make it a wished for intercourse.
Tell him if he wants you to get in the mood he needs to stop insisting and start seducing you. That's what a real man, who sees you as an equal, does.
On top of that, if you're not really having much sex, maybe you both should take a look at that. Is him putting any work into it? Is there something getting in the way of your libido (hormonal contraception, just been a mum...)? Are you bored and need to spice things up? If there's something any of you doesn't like you need to work on it together, not ignore it, blame the other, expect things to get sorted by themselves or pressurise the other.
Good luck!

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Tell him it straight out it bothers you. It’s doesn’t seem to bother or hurt his feelings when he keeps asking.

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Just tell him he is disrespecting ur wishes if he is still doing it

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I think next time he asks and you turn him down 3 times...add on to the comment that you also are turned off and annoyed by him asking few more times. Explain in detail how he makes you feel so it sinks in.

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lol he's probably making sure before he takes care of it himself. my bf will do that. he would rather do it with youuu. if you ask him and he doesn't want to and you drop it and leave it alone tell him you want the same treatment. 2 or 3 times honestly isn't that bad

how do i tell him withiut hurting his feelings?

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