Old school relationships vs today’s

So me and my partner never go on dates and i’ve brought this up a few times to my partner. His response is always “you should take me out too” and I always respond saying “If you took me out, I’d plan to take you out the following week but I feel like the man should do it first.”

I’m really not that old school with the whole dating thing where a man should plan it, take the girl and pay for it. If my partner was to plan a date and say “be ready at 7, wear something nice” i’d happily pay for my own dinner or whatever it is we were doing.

So i’m just wanting advice on how to deal with this. I want to be taken out, especially now that i’m pregnant because I don’t feel all that confident with my bump and I just want him to surprise me. He is always saying “well why don’t you take me out?” when I ask why we never do anything. How can I get my views across to him and make him understand my feelings towards it? Or how can we compromise on this?

Edit: I have taken him out before- a number of times. He still hasn’t done anything in return so that’s why i’m annoyed. I just feel like he’s not a gentleman at all and my dad is a huge gentleman so I have him as my role model. When we first met we used to do ‘date days’ every Sunday so I would plan one Sunday and he would plan the next as it was our only day off together but we haven’t done that for a long time and i’ve suggested it but he never follows up.

Thanks in advance.