SO plays too rough

Ever since we were dating 8yrs ago I noticed that he played really rough, meaning he'd hit too hard or push too hard, resulting in bruises.

I came from a home with 5 brothers, I had no sisters so I grew up kinda rough and tough and normally don't mind a lil scraping but my SO takes it too far, even when I'm not playing. For instance, we were walking through the supermarket the other day and we're going over our list, I told him that the last thing I want is on the other side of the store, he then pushes me and says "let me help you get the faster", he pushed me pretty hard and I ended up stumbling into a display in the center of the aisle, knocking things over and coming up with a scratch across my forearm. 😒 This morning he's telling me to estimate 15ml for my daughter's medication and gave me a 30ml cup. I asked why don't we just use a cup that goes to 15ml and he claimed we didn't have one. When I fished one out of the cabinet, he goes "good job" and pinches me on my arm.. I now have a purple bruise.

I hate that he does things like this and forbid him from playing with my children because he has no limit and acts like he's fighting for his life everytime. I have a sore throat, swollen tonsils and a headache. He's blocking my path and I asked him to move and he goes "make me" and grabs me in a chokehold and regardless of how much I yell, he didn't let go until after he trips me.

I tell him he's an abusive bully and he gets all in his feelings and says he can't play with me and I told he's darn right because I don't wanna get hurt. He starts bringing up times years ago when I actually initiated a ramp or two but then I counter with "why do you think i haven't done that in years?" then he walks away muttering.

I love my husband, he's a great provider, very hands on husband and even helps around the house, without being asked but I just can't deal with being abused under the pretense of rough housing. I have permanent scars from him biting or pinching me. I've talked to him, yelled at him, nothing works he only acts like he's the one who's been hurt and go a day or two with an attitude. I'm running out of patience and just think that the day would come when I'd take something and hit him really hard, which would only make the situation go from bad to worse.

Ladies, I need options, I need a way to get him to understand that he's too fucking rough and I don't like it. I need to get him to stop treating me like a homeboy and understand that I need him to be a bit more gentle when handling me. He definitely needs to understand that i'm done play fighting with him. I've been done for years but he takes every playful word or gesture as a challenge and i'm starting to dislike him for it. Help!!!