Grandparents and other relatives who take care of a family member's child. I need your opinion on the matter. So I always pack my son Conor's (age 3 months old) diaper bag neatly where each item has a designated pocket (e.g. diapers, cream and wipes go in one pocket together for easier diaper changes). I fold the clothes and put them in zip lock bags in case there is something wet in the bag like leaked milk bottles, etc. I also leave little disposable bags for dirty diapers or simply for dirty clothes. Anyways, I prepare this each time I let my husband's family watch him. When I come to pick up Conor, items are left out for me to gather into the bag. And if some items are packed up, it looks as if it was just thrown in. dirty clothes just thrown in as well. Bottles dirty and left out so it gets stinky with milk residue. Not even a simple rinse. One time a poop-stained pair of shorts was thrown in the pouch with the clean, unused diapers. Plus these dirty particles of clothing are never in a plastic bag so I'm constantly forced to wipe down the inside of the bag, pre-treat the already-dried-up poop on clothing and soak then wash the milk bottles in hot water. I feel frustrated and partly disrepected. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? Or should i just be thankful a family member has time to watch Conor. I almost feel like cancelling bringing him over and just deal with watching him myself. I mean, why go through all this extra stress especially being a new mom and all. But I feel bad if I don't bring him over because Conor needs to socialize with his family and it's hard keeping away from them. Please help me to understand or advise me what to do.