Hair help!

Destiny

I have really thick, frizzy hair. If I don’t straighten it every time I wash it I have to throw it up because it’s too crazy/frizzy to wear down. & I’m for one, too lazy to straighten it all the time, & two I don’t like using heat on my hair all the time. I’ve tried hairspray & I don’t like how it makes my hair feel since I have to pretty much drown it in hairspray to make it look decent. I’ve tried some creams, & that doesn’t work. I’m losing confidence because I’m always looking like a bum wearing my hair up all the time. What else can I do or try that has worked for you?