** update #2 I'm really just asking for general guidance how other mothers with multiple children have time to get everything done each day like if there's a routine or something that works for you. yes my kids have chores and no I can't just hire a cleaner.

*update/more info: no my husband doesn't really help much but only because he works ALOT he's never home he works late most days and when he doesnt and he is home he does help a lot.

Okay so I'm losing my shit. please don't judge me. I swear I used to have it all under control I just don't know what happened! I genuinely need help, advice, tips something. Okay so a little backstory/information first. I'm a married mother of four kids. I'm 22 years old with a 12 year old 6 year old 4 year old and a 2 year old. 12 amd 6 are my stepson but both of their moms are COMPLETELY out of the picture and have been since each kid was 2. So I am mom. 12 6 and 2 are all boys 4 is a girl. I am a stay at home mom because there are so many of them(kids) if make less than it cost to put them in daycare. With having this many kids there is obviously a shit ton of laundry and dishes daily that's to be expected. Then on top of that my 4 and 6 both have really bad asthma. They take so much medication DAILY two times a day everyday. Because of their asthma I have to vacuum sweep and bleach walls at least two hours before they come inside. bleaching the walls HAS to be done weekly because of the dust. I can't use scented laundry detergent or any scented anything. I'm messing up on their medications amd when I have their medications right the house goes to shit I can't stay in top of everything all the time. I can NOT stay fit I just keep gaining more and more weight my face is breaking out like crazy and I just don't know what to do. I'm so frustrated here lately and overwhelmed with everything! how do I make this easier on myself how do I get EVERYTHING done each day? how do I get my face and weight back under control? I just need help and advice words of wisdom from other moms I'm seriously so stuck in a rut right now I dont know what to do!!!