Military wife, first deployment

Syd • Sydni Cyr

My husband and I got married on June 12th, 2018. I was 19 and he was 20 at the time. We’ve been married for 11 months now. My husband is in the army and he’s on a deployment in Korea. His deployment is for 9 months and he left on February 14th, 2018 😭 on fucking Valentine’s Day ( Perfect right 🤬 ). So he’s been gone for 3 months now and ever since he left to Korea we’ve been arguing literally every time we speak to each other because he doesn’t call me, he’s always partying and going out with friends every weekend (I’m not exaggerating), he started to lie about going out and he never use to lie to me. When I bring things up that I want to talk to him about he acts non-chalant like he doesn’t care. He started liking females half naked pictures and allowing females to be all over his posts on social media but here’s the funny part, he cussed me out because this one guy on my Facebook “hearted” one of my pictures, I just felt like that was completely backwards and wrong. So one day I told him that if he doesn’t start acting like he’s married and acting like he loves me then I’m leaving him and I never want to see him or speak to him again. He ended up apologizing and he deleted all of the females off of his social media sites and we are on good terms now but he still doesn’t call all he does is text me and that’s it, I’m tired of texting I want to hear his voice and see his face on FaceTime and I’ve expressed this to him millions of times already, like I fucking miss him so much and it’s like he doesn’t miss me at all, it’s like he just doesn’t get it and I try to call him but he doesn’t answer because he says he’s so tired that when he gets to his room he immediately falls asleep. At the moment he’s out in the field and can’t really talk on the phone but I have a friend who lives on the same base as us and her husband is in the same platoon and everything as my husband so I believe they do the same things all of the time but my friends husband calls her so I don’t understand why he doesn’t call me. I’m scared that he might be cheating on me but I feel in my heart that he’s not but I just can’t stop thinking about him cheating on me. I’m driving myself crazy everyday scared that he’s going to ruin our marriage. I don’t know what to do anymore but marriage is for better or for worse and I’m going to try my best not to accuse him of cheating or lieing to me and I’m not going to argue with him anymore because I know he’s working hard and he’s doing it to take care of me and I know he loves me but I just don’t trust these slimy females. Any advice would be helpful or any kind of support 😞.