Hormones or Reality??

Question

my boyfriend of 2 years and the father of our baby due June 12th, when he gets upset or we argue he tells me that "I am miserable to be around and that it's always something with me.." we've been through so much, and before I was pregnant I was not so emotional... but that shi* really hurts my feelings. This pregnancy has been CHAOS and it seems he doesn't even notice. like he just doesn't understand what it's like. and knowing I make him miserable when all I've tried to do for 2 years is make him happy. im not one to publicly ask for relationship advice but should I wait until I have her and then see how things are or should I break things off or is this normal guy behavior? I feel so confused and hurt. any advice helps. thanks ladies.

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Honestly I need some more details. I’m not about to tell you to leave him bc you’re hormonal and pregnant, I know what that’s like. lol I’m short tempered and bitchy sometimes and then the minute my fiancé says that I’m being annoying I start crying 😂 is it possible that you really are getting on this mans nerves? Lmao wait until you have the baby and your hormones go back to normal and then see how you guys feel

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I feel like it always comes down to communication in the right setting. Maybe wait until you are both having a great day and ease into a conversation about how you make him miserable. Try to take what he says with a grain of salt. Don’t react or challenge just listen and ask if you can share with him how you’ve been feeling. Honestly my husband would do that to me we are still ttc our first but we’ve been together nine years this December. He would throw out things like you never did this before we were married or stereotypical circa 1950s comments like the house should have been clean before I got home what’s for dinner and get me a beer. Once I got fed up and unloaded my rage after cleaning the house. It was like he was never satisfied with me. So I launched into how he makes me feel how frustrating it is to work 40-50 hours a week and balance the household and keep our business running over and above my regular job and ttc. Then once he was stunned by that I told him everything I loved about him and what I’d like to do moving forward. It took some time but we are stronger got it. 
The moral of my little anecdote was talk to him as non emotional as possible. Maybe start with telling him you may get emotional but it’s important. 
Good luck honey I really hope you can work things out and things get smoother.

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I wouldn’t put my child thru that can if you think he doesn’t continue this behavior I wouldn’t risk it , and it’ll make your ppd even worse .