Christianity & sexuality

i feel like sexuality is a part of who i am. but my spirituality is an even bigger part of who i am. i know that sounds contradictory, but it’s just how i would describe myself. however recently i have found myself beginning to view sex TOO casually, so i took a step back in order to reevaluate the importance of sex a couple of months ago. let’s say this happened in February. it was not for any religious reasons. i just felt it was a personal change i needed to make. however, come April, i started attending church more regularly again and i just hear it so damn much- it’s honestly amazing how often it comes up- how sex is a sin blah blah blah and yes i know that the Bible states sex outside of marriage is a sin and not just sex in general, but i swear nobody ever talks about sex like it’s a good thing. and i love sex! how can i acquaint my sexual side with my spiritual side? i know that sounds crazy, but i don’t want to lose my sexuality because i feel like my independent womanliness that’s empowered by her own body is part of me. i also of course do not want to compromise my relationship with God at all. thoughts? opinions?