Would you still date him?
So, here is the story.
When I was 22 (I am 28 now), I met a guy who is 8 years older than me. We met while I was out for one of my friend’s birthday. When we met, we exchanged numbers and continued to talk. Eventually we started seeing each other and were pretty much exclusive. One day, he brought up the conversation about being officially together, and I was ok with it until he brought up being ready to settle down and having children. At the time, I was still in college and settling down was the last thing on my mind. Not that I wanted to be free as a bird, but I wanted to finish my school career and get myself situated with my degree before turning to that chapter of my life. Anyway, after that conversation, things went down hill and we ended up deciding that it was better that we part ways. After some time (maybe a year later) I found a Facebook message from him saying hello and asking how I’ve been. Needless to say we reconnected again. Ever since then, until now, we’ve been on and off. He’s a homicide detective and very well off. He treats me like a true princess and he makes it known that he wants to be with me. He makes comments about us living together and having children and him taking care of me, the whole 9. Here’s the catch: sex with him sucks! I absolutely dread it. I can count the times I’ve finished in one hand, and that’s honestly too many. I usually find excuses as to why I don’t wanna have sex and sometimes I give in but I try to make him finish as quickly as possible so I can get myself out of that misery. I’m a very affectionate person and I love being touched, but when it comes to him, I just can’t bring myself to being that way. Would you still date him?
And please, no negative comments. I am not using him. I pay for things also, even though he takes care of most things when we hang out.
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