Due June 15th but gave birth May 23rd

Here’s my birth story....

So before i start let me just give you all a little background information. I met the father of my child in high school. He was my first love. We were together for about 3 years and then broke up. Over the years he would find a way to contact me to see if i was single or whatever but i was always in a relationship. Fast forward about 8 years, he got married, and had two kids. Around May of last year, he messaged me out of no where and asked how i was doing. I had just gotten out of a 4 year relationship and he had just gotten a divorce... or so i thought. Turns out him & his wife had separated due to her cheating but weren’t legally divorced. Which i didn’t find out until AFTER I was pregnant 🙃 i broke things off with him because it was literally constant lies and drama and him bouncing back and forth between his wife and i. He gets her pregnant two months after me and basically pretends that i don’t exist for the next 6 months. He randomly started contacting me when i was about 7 months pregnant saying he wanted to be involved. Which i was fine with, but due to many different factors, i would never allow my child to be around his wife. She’s not a good person. She tried crashing their car with their kids in it. I can only imagine how she’d treat my child if i wasn’t there. So no. He continued to be inconsistent and not involved after the initial conversation so I’ve pretty much altered my mindset to the fact that I’m going to be a single mother at this point. Which I’m completely fine with. Now to my birth story...

I was headed to my 36 week check up, where i was actually 36 weeks and 5 days. I walk into the drs office and walk straight up to the counter to check in/get the paperwork for my FMLA for work. My mom always meets me at my drs appointments but i usually get there before her so i turn around and see my mom sitting on the couch in the waiting area and i sit next to her. As I’m talking to my mom i feel someone staring at me.... well i don’t think anything of it because for the first time during my entire pregnancy i actually came to the drs dressed up and put together because i had to be at work right after and usually i take the day off. So i just chalked it up to someone staring at me because I’m dressed up. Well all of a sudden a girl gets up in a hurry and pretty much huffs and puffs her way out the door. When she’s exiting i look up and see that she looks familiar. I’ve never seen her in person but I’m 99% sure at this point that this is my bag daddy’s wife.... it’s her all right. And after about 20 minutes of her being outside, in she walks with my BD. I’m beyond irritated at this point. My BD has been to the drs with me multiple times in the beginning of my pregnancy, and has met my dr before. So the fact that he would let her come to MY dr when he knows that’s where i go was beyond disrespectful to me. Anyways, fast forward to me getting checked out and my blood pressure was 180 over something. My dr starts panicking because I’ve had pretty much the perfect pregnancy up to this point. I felt the need to let my dr know why my blood pressure was that high just so she didn’t panic. They did some blood work and i left for work with my drs thinking that it was just that high because of the situation and that it would go down once i calmed down... well it didn’t. I finished work that day and went back and worked an entire shift the next day but the entire time i really felt like crap. I was having period like cramps pretty consistently but after reading a million others birth stories i chalked it up to being Braxton Hicks. After work that night i called my mom and let her know that i wasn’t feeling well but I didn’t want to go to the hospital just to have them send me home(it was around 10’pm at this point). So i decided to take a warm bath and try to get some sleep. After i lay down the cramping definitely started getting worse. My mom tells me to track the contractions and they’re literally 3 minutes apart. At this point i tell her to meet me at the hospital which is only about a 15-20 minute drive. I live by myself btw, so i had to drive myself to the hospital with contractions and all. We get to the hospital, get checked to labor and delivery and they put me in the triage to get checked. Well i was in labor but i was only 2 centimeters dilated an my blood pressure was still extremely high. I’m not sure why but my contractions were EXTREMELY painful even though i wasn’t dilated very much. I started throwing up from the pain so the nurse said she’d give me some kind of pain medication to take the edge off along with some blood pressure medicine to try and get it down but that i was definitely going to be induced that night. The mixtures of the medications had me shaking so bad! It was the worst. It’s around 2:30 by the time they get me into my own room. The nurse checks me again and I’ve managed to dilate to a 4 by myself. I get an epidural around 4 and try to rest. They also started the medicine to induce me around this time. At 7:30 my OB shows up to break my water and sees that I’m already dilated to a 7 almost 8. They still think it’ll be around noon when I’ll be ready to push so my dr says she’s going to her office to see some patients and then she’ll be back. Well she doesn’t even make it out of the hospital because i was ready to push literally not even 15 minutes later. My baby boy was born at 8:22 am on May 23rd. He was only 4 lbs and 8 oz. since he was premature, was having a hard time keeping warm enough, and his glucose levels were low, we ended up staying in the hospital for 3 days. But besides the hectic delivery and scary couple of days after, my baby boy is doing amazing😚 he’s small but mighty! Sorry for the extremely long story! Haha I’ve been waiting to do this my entire pregnancy 🙂

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