Update:

Well my SIL just announced that that she’s pregnant .. she and my BIL stopped by to tell us and then on their way out she said “hopefully you guys can get pregnant too” then my BIL said “ yeah, I mean we weren’t even trying that hard and it happened for us” she then said “yeah, just keep trying and maybe it could happen”

It just upsets me so much that someone who isn’t ready can get pregnant just like that and my husband and I are so ready for this. I mean she doesn’t even know if she’ll quit smoking! 🤯😤 And my BIL knows they aren’t ready and didn’t actually seem that excited about it. It just hurts so much, I’m crushed 😭

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My husband and I have been truly trying for almost 10 months now and not using any birth control for a full year. My dr has finally sent a referral for me to see a gynaecologist (OBGYN) to help us get pregnant and sort out if there is any issues.

My husband let it slip to his brother that we were trying and he then turned around and told his wife. Once she found out she demanded that they start trying too even though my brother-in-law told her that they weren’t ready.. fast forward a week or two and I guess she won cause he told my husband that they were now trying.

She’s the kind of woman who will scream at her husband until she gets her way. So this was not a surprise to us.

A few months ago I ran into her at our towns general store (we live in a very small town with only one store Haha 😅) and she was acting very strange. It felt like she wanted to say something to me but didn’t. I told my husband this when I got home and he told me not to worry about it. Well when he got home from work the next day, I guess he had asked his brother about it so he said he new why. Apparently my sister-in-law thought she was pregnant and she was looking for a pregnancy test. she wanted to tell me that she was and that she was able to do it first, that I had been trying longer but still hadn’t gotten pregnant... she essentially wanted to rub it in my face.

Turns out she wasn’t pregnant though, and I feel guilty about this but I secretly felt like it was karma. Even now every time we see each other I feel like she’s staring me down and being smug about me not getting pregnant. (Mind you she isn’t either) and I’m trying to not let her get in my head but her little mind games are stressing me out 😔

She also was bitter when my husband and I got engaged and so my brother-in-law proposed shortly after even though they had just gotten back together yet again. Then we got married first which she sulked the whole day and refused to come to my bridal showers or bachelorette. I feel like she just wants to be first at this and will do anything to make that happen so that she can brag or rub it in my face.It will be the first grandchild on my husbands side.

She and my brother-in-law are just not ready. Their relationship has always been off and on and them getting into massive fights. They’ve been together for roughly 5 years and have broken up at least once a year if not more minus this past one. They got married in October of this year and both my husband and I think it’s just a matter of time before they split. All she wants to do is go party, drink and get high and he’s been trying to finish their house but she gets angry when he works on it instead of doing whatever she wants. So their house has been stripped to the studs everywhere but their kitchen and one bedroom for over a year and is showing no real promise of being done any time soon. But I have a feeling she may be pregnant and will announce soon judging by how she was acting last weekend and while I will be happy for them it also hurts and makes me nervous for them and their child. Regardless I will love their child deeply whenever that happens.. but is just hurts that family would act like this and make me feel even worse about to being able to conceive 😔

I guess what I’m asking for is a little support and any tips on how to not let her get to me? I’m trying not to stress about our fertility until I see the dr but it’s hard