I have a lot of these with my SO. It gets so frustrating that he doesn’t understand my point of view.

I understand he’s a very hard working man and works sub up till just about sun down providing for us. But what I can’t understand is why he says one thing and does something completely different. Tonight after our conversation we just had a little part of me gave up. I can’t ever seem to get him to see it from my side. He works out of town quite a bit. So we don’t get to see him during the week. We have a 6 month old baby boy, and I have a 7 year old son who adores him. So, tonight he said he was going to talk to us and completely blew us off for his coworkers at the bar that’s across the parking lot from his hotel. My 7 year old was looking forward to talking to him and I had to come up with some excuse as to why he wasn’t able to speak with him. And when I finally talked to him FOUR HOURS LATER he just said “ yea I’m the bad guy I’m the piece of shit I’m this I’m that.” I said you could have taken five minutes of your time and stepped outside and talked to your family. And he came up with some bullshit excuse.

Honestly. Am I like being selfish or something? Because I don’t EVER do anything of that sort whatsoever. I don’t go out to the bar with my friends. And if I do hang out with them I always feel guilty I’m staying too long and I want to get back home to my family. I feel like that when he does this type of crap we are being put on the back burner. And he refuses to see it.

Please let me know what you think or if you have any advice. I’m open and willing.