Ok, be prepared for a long story ahead.

I have been best friends with my best friend since we were fourth graders in elementary school. We’ve literally grown together and we have the best friendship. Through our growing up together I have seen here in and out of bad relationships. Some physically bad, mentally, and both. She recently had gotten out of a relationship with the most toxic person I knew. She couldn’t have any friends and he didn’t approve of me being friends with her. She couldn’t speak to anyone. If he did something wrong it was her fault. She finally got her senses and kicked him out. Then she juggled between booty calls with guys when she finally got a guy to stick to her by getting pregnant with his baby. She has wanted a baby since she was a freshman in high school. (That’s a whole different story).

At first, this guy was great. He was nice, cute, funny, and I really like him. Until he pushed her out a window. They both had been drinking, we also found out later on that she was pregnant then, and they argued and he pushed her out of the window. It’s only the first level window....but still. Now if you ask her, she makes the excuse about how he tripped and it was an accident. Well everything I guess was better and the baby came and things were better again. Or so I thought.

They bought a trailer home together. Brand new, great size, and everything seemed well. Baby is here and as I’m walking in the house I see dents all over the walls. I ask what they were and she tells me it’s from where they have both gotten mad and thrown things at the walls.....that’s right. Baby in the house and they are doing that crap. Well things got really bad and she found out he was cheating on her. Which wasn’t his first offense and she still hasn’t left him yet. But she thought if he stayed on the opposite side of the house from her and the baby that they would “fall back in love” like she’s living in a movie. Well things are worse and she’s starting to punch walls because of how “straight up mean” he is.

HOW DO I HELP HER REALIZE WHATS HAPPENING? I told her that she needs to leave or he needs to leave and her response was that there is just so much to think about with the baby...I’m going 😐 what?!? What else is there to think about? You’re both hurting each other mentally and physically and this is not a place you want your baby to grow up in. Last time I advised her to Lena e him her excuse was that she didn’t want the baby to grow up in a split household. So you’d rather your baby be in a fighting householders and grow up around violence instead of having two loving parents who live separately?

I just need help. I don’t know what to do. I can’t sit here and watch this keep happening and watch this poor baby grow up like this. But, I fear she will never open her eyes. What should I do?