Would you still be with your partner if you caught them looking at strippers on Instagram and getting off to it?

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Ugh I hate even typing this but how do y’all feel about your partners looking at strippers on Instagram and getting off to it? I caught my boyfriend doing this and I felt so hurt. And I know I sound super insecure about this but I was never an insecure girl, but when this happened I felt like I was cheated on. Has this ever happened to any of you? How did you come back from this? Is this worth breaking up? MY ULTIMATE QUESTION HERE FOR THE POLL IS would you forgive your partner and still be with them? just let me know y’all a storied if you have any or any advice.

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I was very clear from the beginning on what I considered cheating/adultery.  My husband still chose to propose and marry me. If he broke his word, my trust would fly out the window.  Vows are important to me.

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I don't consider that kind of stuff to be cheating, so it would be a nonissue for me. But it obviously made you feel uncomfortable so you need to communicate about it. if he knew you were against it, then he's in the wrong. if he didn't, now's the time to tell him so he knows where the boundaries in your relationship are

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I was in a 6 year relationship with a guy that would chose porn over me then started to go on dating sites. When I woke up to him going to town on himself right next to me is what really crossed the line for me though, he knew damn well if he woke me up I would have gladly had sex with him so that was pretty crappy. I stayed when I shouldn’t have, he didn’t care that it made me feel insecure and crappy about myself because i was obviously not what he was looking for. I’m now engaged to an amazing man that is still a man and likes to look at stuff like that sometimes. If it’s things I can’t do for him (lesbians, twerking, giant fake boobs) it doesn’t really bother me as long as he’s not choosing that over having sex with me. He makes sure I know how sexy he thinks I am and I never thought I would see the day that I actually felt good about myself and didn’t worry about my SO not finding me attractive. I told him to just use his private browser then i wouldn’t even have to see anything (Incase I come across something on one of my sensitive days, he has me google stuff on his phone a lot) I would talk to him about it and if he doesn’t respect how you feel about it I would probably move on though. It’s never fun to be with someone that doesn’t care how their actions make you feel. Good luck girl 💕💕💕

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I wouldn’t agree with it if my husband was he use to have a porn addiction when we were dating and I do not agree with it at all and I totally feel like in a way he was cheating on me by being lustful of another woman. I forgave him and we worked through it and still are because he falls off the wagon every now and then but he is always honest with me about it. But this only worked because he didn’t even like that part of himself looking at porn because he thought of it as that’s someone’s daughter and he wouldn’t want someone looking at his daughter like that.

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🤷🏻‍♀️ I watch porn and get off to it, so I don’t see why my man can’t.

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And never look at them again.

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As long as he promised to unlike and unfollow them.

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To me it would depend on if these were local strippers or celebrity ones hell never actually be in contact with

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My husband and I don't consider that cheating. We both have varied sex drives and aren't with each other constantly so know that there's going to be times we're turned on and the other isn't. That being said, we've had many productive discussions (before we married) about what is and isn't an issue to us and our own boundaries, which mean that we're very clear on what we deem acceptable and not. If one of us wasn't ok with it, then that would have had to be respected.

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I meant to click yes. Damn fat fingers.

Would you still be with your partner if you caught them looking at strippers on Instagram and getting off to it?

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