so back in january me and my first boyfriend broke up and i have been absolutely devastated. getting over him has been so hard and i miss him all the time and no matter everything that happened and some pretty terrible things i know about him now i still love him and want him back. but for the first time since we broke up i met a guy i have a genuine interest in. he’s sweet and he’s sexy and i’ve got both romantic interest and physical attraction for the first time since my break up. so obviously this was a huge deal and i was excited about it. the kicker is, he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now, he just wants to be friends. i figured i would need to just cut him out altogether because i don’t want to set myself up to be hurt hoping for something that may never come of this. there is interest on his part as well and i’m sure of that, but he doesn’t want to date anyone right now not just me. some of my friends are advising that i just be friends with him but i’m really not sure what to do here. i really don’t want to let him go but i don’t want to hurt myself just because i hold onto everything. any advice ladies?