I have a 12 going on 13 year old stepson who has been in my life for the last 6 years. He was 6 going on 7 years old when he first came into my life. I don’t ever call him my stepson but am doing so in this post so you all can understand this post (I always refer to him as just my son). His biological mother is a joke. My husband and I have full custody with court stating she should be seeing him every other weekend. She sees him once every 3 or 4 months and when he does go over to see her she ends up dropping him off at her sisters house which turns into a visit with his aunt and cousins. She’s on and off drugs, no job, doesn’t have her own home, she lives off friends couches and is just totally unstable. Constantly has a different boyfriend and is just bad news for our sons life. Needless to say, I love him like my own and have stepped up to help raise him. My husband and I just had a baby girl 4 months ago & my mother was ecstatic. Keep in mind, she and I have never had the greatest relationship. Before I was pregnant I hadn’t spoke to her in about 2 years. I honestly was even contemplating whether or not I wanted her back in my life but with my husbands good heart, he talked me into letting her back into our lives for the sake of our new baby. She has become so overbearing since the baby was born. Constantly wanting to come over, texts messages daily asking about the baby. It’s gotten to the point where I ignore her messages because it’s too much. Anyway, back to the point of this post. My biggest concern is that she could honestly care less about my stepson. She NEVER & I mean NEVER asks about him or asks how he’s doing. She’s come over numerous times with gifts for the baby and nothing for him. Now, I remember growing up and anytime my grandparents had a gift for me they had a gift for my sister as well. There was never any favoritism. When she comes over she barely even speaks to him let alone acknowledges that he’s even in the house. It’s all about the baby. The other day she wanted to come over for a visit and I told her we would be busy all weekend with our son because he had football practice Saturday and Sunday as well as a team BBQ and meeting for the parents. I did however tell her that if she wanted to come see the baby she could tag along to one of his practices with us. & her response was of course a no. I’m getting to the point where I don’t want her in our lives because of how she simply doesn’t acknowledge his existence. I mean, I get it, he isn’t biologically mine but I’ve raised him the last 6 years and that boy is my whole world just as my baby girl is now. I’m not sure how to talk to her about it without getting completely defensive. & quite frankly if I do say something then I feel like she is being forced to have a relationship with him rather than it coming naturally. Has anyone else dealt with this? Any advice? I’m at a loss and not sure how to handle it because honestly, I’m pissed off about it.