Manipulative Mother😭

A little backstory so you can somewhat understand the situation...

I am 21 years old, 39 weeks pregnant & living with my partner in a rented flat.

I have always had a complicated family life, but recently it has become unbearable and it’s all to do with my mother and how controlling she is.

She has been this way for aslong as I can remember. At first it was trying to stop me socialising with my friends for example not allowing me to leave the house, infact often taking the key so that I couldn’t go anywhere. And taking the internet cable & house phone so I was unable to contact anyone.

If I was to be out I would receive text after text calling me names and telling me to never come home and that she hated me. It was constant.

I moved out at 19 officially and in with my partner. We didn’t speak for the best part of a year.

When she found out I was pregnant she was not impressed, however came around to the idea and began contact again. We have seen her a lot since. I forgave her and in a sense she forgave me and we moved on. (So I thought) We see her without fail once maybe twice a week.

However she has been very controlling with my pregnancy, telling me what I can and can’t do with my baby, where I should give birth, how many times a week I have to see her because apparently I’m not bothering enough. And the two biggest problems:

We have been offered a house about 45 minutes from her, it’s closer to my partners work and we need a two bed with the baby, she is deeply upset by this and says we cannot go after all she’s done for us and that we are selfish. (Even though she drives)

& Also I have requested no visitors in hospital, she is calling me pathetic and telling me that no one else would treat their mother this way.

The abusive texts have started again with her calling me nasty, selfish, a bitch, saying she will not bother with me anymore, that I’m a user and so much more I couldn’t disclose over here even if I wanted too.

I’m at my wits end I don’t know what the hell to do, my stress levels are through the roof😫

Any advice?