Husband like being a Dad?

Question

Looking to see if other’s may be in the same boat or have some advice. My husband and I tried to have a baby for almost 2 years before I got pregnant. Then when it happened we were so excited. Baby is now almost 4 months old and I feel like my husband doesn’t enjoy being a dad.  He doesn’t take initiative to play with him or take care of him in anyway. I find it odd. I’ve asked him to change his diaper and he has argued with me about it!? When I try to talk to him about the issue he gets SUPER defensive. I asked him why he doesn’t want to be with him when he gets home from work so now he’ll pick him up, but he’ll sit with his phone in his face the whole time. His first Father’s Day he chose to go golfing, he changes maybe 2 or 3 diapers a week, only watches me bathe him, and will ask for help if I encourage him to do anything independently with baby. It’s really making me look at him differently. He views caring for the baby as work and I see it as just part of life and I genuinely enjoy it. Do I give him time or do something? We are so blessed with a happy and wonderful baby, why can’t he see that?

Answer

My husband was like this at first with my oldest son, so I started "making" him choose between chores and playing with the baby. But not in a forceful way.  For example, in the evening after dinner I'd say "the dishes need to be done and baby needs a bath, would you like to do dishes while I give him a bath, or would you prefer to do his bath?"  Or "I need to clean the bathroom, can you hang out with him while I clean, or would you prefer me to watch him?" He'd almost always pick the baby, and slowly became more involved. He also got better when he got older because you can do more with an older baby. When they're little, they're basically mushballs who eat and poop, and some parents just aren't great with infants but love toddlers and young kids.

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My husband was the same with our first baby and now again with the second.  He has a hard time Bonding in the new baby stage.  However,  once my first got a little older he was obsessed!  Now she is two and has been a full blown daddy’s girl forever!! She thinks he is the absolute greatest and he is super involved.  I expect the same thing with our second.  I think newborn phase is hard for some men...they just see it more as work

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My husband loves our kids but he was never ever around newborns before we had our first. He want very confident holding our first when he was born and didn’t really know what to do with him. Once he could make him laugh though.. he’s so much more comfortable and just the best dad in the world!

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I am so grateful for my bf. He literally changed his diaper for a week and I didn’t have to. I had a really bad third degree tear so it was hard to get up. He did everything and is so jealous that I get so spend time with him. If I do tummy time, or bathe him without him he gets mad so now I wait for him to get home. I think your husband needs a slap in the face maybe that will bring him back to reality. He sounds ungrateful.

Husband like being a Dad?

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