Just like many of you my husband and I have been TTC for about 2.5yrs with no success. Being an older couple “Hubs 48 & Me 38” it’s not getting any easier for us or on us. The heart ache of knowing every day that goes by is less of a time we will get to enjoy with a family kills us both. It’s getting to the point where all hope has actually been lost on my end & he holds onto hope for the both of us. The heartbreak from TTC has become to much and brought allot of sadness for us both. I have began looking into other options for us and asking allot of ?’s on the fostering topic since my brother and SIL have got into it. I have fell in love with a few of the kids we’ve met that they’ve had in care, and I could see myself adopting a child to be our own through a process like this! My husband and I have been seriously discussing lately about fostering infant, toddler & preschool ages to eventually adopt if that became the scenario while in our care. It has taken me a long time to get my husband to come around to this point though on the topic of fostering and adoption due to his own fears of the children’s history. We’d been discussing if we did this we’d want to do infant & toddler ages as well preschool, so he’s worried and concerned about infants we may get into our care with severe health issues from the parents drug abuse or severe neglect. I have been honest with him & told him we can’t be guaranteed on what cases may come to us, but we can help these children overcome it together with our love & support. We can walk the journey with them when the time may come. That seems to help ease his mind a bit. I myself have heard so many happy endings to these horrors these children go through and it melts my heart to hear them end in such amazing ways as adoption! My husband and I would definitely be those parents to bring a happy ending for these children that would also touch our lives as well & teach us stuff we may not even know. My husband is the type that would have to be around the actual children & fall in love with them & have them touch his heart. I know this from watching him bond with our nieces & nephews the past 5.5yrs we’ve been dating, engaged & married. There all from my side of the family since he was an only child. He’s done a complete 180 from not wanting kids in the 2yrs we dated to spending time with them be it family or friends kids and then coming to me 1yr into our marriage and saying let’s start a family together. Even he gets upset when we realize this isn’t our month during our TTC journey. 2.5yrs of sadness has been enough in this journey for us so we’ve been seriously discussing our other options to best suit our needs and guarantee happy hearts throughout! With us getting older we feel that helping children in need of safety & love would be our best option to spend $ on instead of paying for treatments that could end in more heartache. We realize that by opening our heart to a few infant, toddlers & preschoolers in need we not only would be helping these children get a better home & life, but that we’d also be eventually meeting our future child or children to adopt who’d offer us just as much as we have to offer them.

I’d love to hear any information anyone has to share about fostering and the impact it has had on there life. I’m open to hearing both the positive and the negative that can also come along with it. We are in FL by the way if anyone has any information on where to begin looking into becoming foster parents further. Thank you for allowing me to post this and sorry for the long read.