Sore spot

My husband and I have a really great marriage. He is an amazing guy and I can’t say enough about his character. We just have one sore spot that we run in to occasionally, and that is sex. He has a more irregular, lower sex drive than I do. I prefer regular and more often. We usually get it on 2-3 times a week which is perfectly fine. However every few weeks he’ll lose interest and won’t initiate for over a week, and won’t respond to my initiation. It’s clear that we are just different people and our cycles sometimes go out of sync.

I have let it get to me though, and I turn into a big sour mess every time this happens. “You don’t love me, you don’t want me, haven’t touched me in over a week, etc etc.”

what are some practical ways to cope during these times? Things I can focus on, or remind myself of... like I said, our marriage is great. I am just letting this one thing affect me too much and it needs to stop. Need practical tips. No bashing please... 🙃