So there’s this guy I like a lot, we’re exclusive and he likes me a lot too, he’s the sweetest guy ever, but he can’t stay hard. He usually gets hard and gets a boner but then when we’re about to have sex or after he goes to get a condom he gets soft. I’ve tried giving him a blow job or just like doing more foreplay but it doesn’t work and I can’t ever get him hard again. I know sex isn’t the center of our relationship and I don’t even have that high of a sex drive but it is something that worries me if I want to have a future with him, which I do. He brought it up one time and was super embarrassed and said it wasn’t my fault it’s just happened to him a lot and he said he thinks it’s from like a year ago when he drank more often and it made him not be able to keep a boner. He said it’s actually really common and he’s looked it up and there’s stuff he can do about it, but I don’t know if it’s really that easy to change. Any of y’all had experience or know anything about this or what he can do to help it?? As much as he said it has nothing to do with me it still kinda sucks that I cant do anything about it when I try, like it’s weird to me that he’s not a super horny guy and I can’t turn him on

Also - he came to visit me because we’re 9 hours apart this summer, he stayed for 3 nights and we only had sex one time because it wasn’t working the other times we tried. I expected us to have a lot of sex and be all over each other since we’re long distance right now so I was a little bummed