Pain during sex - help!

I’ve been to 3 doctors now about my issues and no one knows what’s wrong. Does anyone have any suggestions? It’s starting to affect my marriage because not only do I not want to have sex, but it gives me anxiety attacks to have my husband even attempt it because I remember the pain so vividly. And I still have sex because I want to, just the penetration hurts. It takes a LOT to even get me turned on now because the panic of actually having sex doesn’t allow me to relax. So not only is affecting my marriage, but it’s affecting my own mental health.

Okay, so here’s the deal. After the birth of our second baby sex was great until about 3 months postpartum. I began experiencing tender spots. I thought it was my cervix, but i not think it’s my uterus because if you press on my lower stomach where my uterus/bladder would be i feel the SAME pain there. The first doctor said I needed to use lube, I argued because that’s not the pain I was having...... she said maybe I just didn’t like my husband and subconsciously didn’t want to have sex with him. Eye roll. The second doctor was the one that pressed on my stomach and suggested a bladder infection. Cultures came back negative but I took antibiotics anyway just to be safe. Nothing hanged. So I was tested for STDS. Again, everything was negative. At this point he said I just didn’t like my husband - but this pain occurs whether it’s my husband, or a toy, or even simply pressing on my abdomen. The third dr I saw is my doctor now and she dismissed it because I was pregnant again and suggested lube. After the birth of baby girl, and during that pregnancy IT GOT

WORSE. Now not only does it hurt excruciatingly so, I almost passed out from the pain, I haven’t even been able to let my husband finish 3/5 times we’ve attempted because it’s so bad, and now it also feels like electric shocks through my clitoris on top of the abdomen pain, and I’m passing fleshy clots, and my periods have COMPLETELY changed to cramps with minimal spotting, no actual bleeding. I’m attaching a picture of the second fleshy clot that I’ve passed following sex. It’s pink in color, but the first clot I passed was gray. Again - no blessing even during my “periods”. I’ve had an ultrasound, Pap smear, STD screening twice, cultures, and have tried several different types of lube. We even went to marital counseling to see if it WAS our relationship. Does anyone have any suggestions? I’m desperate and can’t do this much longer. Please help. I’m reaching out to my doctor one last time then going to see a 4th but it’s getting so expensive to keep chasing a cause when appears there is none.