Blended Family Concerns!

Are any of you stay at home moms to your stepchildren? Do any of you work and then when you aren’t you are with your stepchildren or even your bio children or a combo of both ? My S/O and I BOTH work midnights... I work in nursing 3 nights a week and my S/O is a welder 5-6 nights a week. He has a 5 year old that I love dearly and we also have one on the way! 🌈😊

My S/O is expecting that on every night I have off we keep his son here, which means I have to switch my entire sleeping schedule 3 times throughout the week. I go from a night shift to a day shift back to a night shift in under 7 days... I am pregnant and it is so much stress on my body. We struggle to carry full term and im thinking stress is a huge part of why I miscarry everytime, but my S/O really treats his son more like a newborn, and he thinks his son needs him 24/7 even though his son often expresses that he misses his bio mom, who is always more than willing to take him. I feel like he isn’t prioritizing to the best of his ability.

Is it wrong to feel like I am a bad mom for putting everybody else before the child in my belly? I know its getting to a point where my body cant handle it, but I just dont know how to approach this. I want to be a mom to my child that needs me first, but i just dont know how to handle a situation like this? What would you guys do?