My boyfriend means the world to me..almost everything I asked for in a man but there's a big problem we are having..when we have sex it's never spontaneous..its always at night before bed and literally every 3 to 5 days..i could make a calendar ahead of time that's how much of a ritual we are in..no foreplay whatsoever...never has been and this has been my huge complaint..he is currently going through a divorce and has told me that he use to do everything with her sex wise but me it's different...i asked him if he wasn't physically attracted to me and he said of course he is..but he never cares to have sex or even try foreplay..since we've been together I've tried to initiate sex and I always get shut down no matter what..he can also careless about blowjobs or really anything it's always the same position it never changes..no making out just straight to the point..also when we do have sex it's only because I've complained so much about it so I feel like he just does it to get it over with and to shut me up..

We never argue about anything but this and he never talks back just shakes his head and tells me that this is him and I shouldn't be asking him to change and that maybe he isn't the one for me...i told him I'm not asking for much..and he doesn't really say anything..we are suppose to move in together on the 2nd of next month and today after me explaining how I feel for the millionth time he says well maybe we shouldn't move in together since you think our sex is trash (I never once said that) he said I think you're perfect and you're everything to me but maybe I'm just not right for you...

I'm just so hurt and don't know where to go from here..all I'm asking for is for him to be more intimate and spontaneous..switch things up and add some foreplay and he acts like I'm asking for the moon and stars..

Don't know what to do I'm so sad and feel so unwanted physically...it really puts a damper on my self esteem.