Sorry this is a long post!! I’m in a switch relationship. Not all the time, it’s not something that take over our lives, but it used to be every other week or so.

But I’m 16 weeks pregnant and ever since we found out, my fiancé won’t dom me as he’s scared, he doesn’t want to hurt me and the baby now. I’m finding it quite difficult because I really miss being his girl, and I keep having dreams about it constantly. I’ve said to him that as long as there’s no breath play and that he takes into account that my pain threshold might not be as high now from more blood, then it’s safe, but he is still worried so won’t do it. I also tried subtly saying that I just miss being “girl” sometimes, and he wouldn’t ave to whip me or cause too much pain if he doesn’t want to. He could literally just get me subby, tie me up, maybe gag me and play with me and tease me, I absolutely love it when he teases me for ages while I’m restricted. But he didn’t seem to get the hint that I don’t have to have pain to get the submissive pleasure.

But on top of that, I’ve always had a very high sex drive, him bit so much just “normal” lol. But I’m even more so recently, but we haven’t had sex for at least 3 weeks now, maybe 4. We’ve had foreplay maybe once a week if that, but usually he does it to me then that’s it, when I try to pleasure him he says he doesn’t fancy it. I don’t really understand as he loves me giving him head usually, I’m the only person to ever be able to make him cum that way ever. And I love doing it to him too, I just love that feeling after of, I’ve done that to him. But he just never seems to want to. I find that really difficult, I try to get him in the mood for sex or head, but he just always says I’m tired, or I’ve got work on my mind I can’t think about anything else when I’ve got work in the morning. But then when I try on the weekend in the evening he’ll says he’s tired from a busy day. When I’ve tried in the morning I leave until we’ve cuddled for a bit and then try and he says i was just about to get up and I always leave it late, and that I have all that time while we’re cuddling but I choose just as he’s about to get in the shower to try, so then we don’t do anything. But for me the reason I wait is because I’m nervous of trying and it being “rejected”. I just miss having sex with him, don’t get me wrong, I love that he makes me cum with foreplay bit sometimes it’s just not the same as sex and that closeness that I feel from it.

I’m so sorry this is so long but I just needed to get it off my chest.

Has anyone got any ideas or suggestions on how to get him in the mood more often?

Thank you.