We both took a few hours of not talking (unless it had to do with our son- I always send him non-stop pics) also let him FaceTime before little man went to bed.

Yes our relationship clearly has MANY issues that we are BOTH aware of. We have gone to counseling but stopped when he went out of town. It was too difficult for us to arrange appointments with not knowing when he’d be here or not plus neither of us were a huge fan of the dr- he was a bit weird to be honest.

We started having issues a year and a half ago when I had a miscarriage and lost my grandfather within the same week. I was distraught and we started fighting terribly; I moved in with my parents for about a month. When I went back to our house I learned he has been dating a girl for a few weeks while I was gone. We were fighting but never actually broke up- he bought us concert tickets lied saying he gave them to his friend and his wife (one of the guys he is with in Florida) however he took his guy friend and they were actually picking up girls at the concert. I sucked it up forgave him and moved on- I blamed it as his way of acting out due to the miscarriage. We were fine for months we conceived our son I found out the gender early and planned a gender reveal with his sister for their family. (He has 2 daughter 16&7 he really wanted a boy!!)

Literally 2 days later I got into a horrific car accident; I was in the hospital for 3 days then had to do physical therapy to help me walk again. I started having horrible anxiety and still don’t drive; I hate even being in a vehicle.

End of his work season here is October/November depending when it starts snowing- him and his group of guys got contracted from a company down in Florida some went down in October, November and December. He went in November but stayed from thanksgiving until MidDecember as I was due then- I went 3 weeks early so 🤷🏻‍♀️

He left but came back for Christmas and New Years. We obviously did all the gung-ho family stuff. He went back down January 3rd for a few weeks- then the Pro-Bowl happened. I found out he flew a girl down from here that he had apparently been talking to and somehow finding time to go on dates with while working and being home with his newborn son. (Obviously it was while he was ‘working’) she got told he had a family called him out he sent her flowers and lied saying we broke up before our son was born and all of his buddies joined in with the facade. I completely lost it called his sister bawling my eyes out because here I am home alone just had your child and you’re out dating a fitness model- I was beyond devastated. I stayed with a friend when he was in town but took our son over to spend time with him or we’d meet out somewhere I could walk to. Went over one day to help him with his 7 year old and there was another woman’s sweater on the couch- so I went back to where I was staying. After another month or 2 his apologies, crying, promises he’s change and he wants us as a family.

I went back.

We bought our house and moved here we were all excited be because we were finally moving up in the world and out of an apartment. We were excited to have a home for our son to grow up in.

We as a couple have made agreements to help us with our trust issues. When those agreements are repeatedly broken and lied about- how can you have any trust for the other person?

When I pay our bills I look over them and make sure they are correct. When I saw how abnormally high our cc statement was I looked into.

He was working so I texted him. He didn’t respond for over an hour so yes I looked into it. The phone number was on our cc statement so yes I googled it... more so with their being 2 charges that high- typically that card is for gas or his plane ticket home as it’s a flyer mile card. Eating out or whatever else “fun stuff” is supposed to stay on the debit card. So there were multiple red flags BEFORE I googled it.

I saw what it was and then called him as he still had responded to my texts. I asked him straight up what was going on. That’s when the whole shit show began.

I’m sick of being lied to. I’m sick of my head being screwed with and manipulated. He talks for a living. He knows what to say how to say it and when to make anyone fall for his bs. I’ve learned this. Yes I somehow ended up pregnant again even with him being gone all the time. I was on mirena after our son was born- it fell out and I couldn’t go back to my dr because I lost my insurance when I left my job to stay home.

He is back to his apology train wanting to fix it claiming to be in 150% however I’m at be point he’s only saying this because he’s caught AGAIN and trying to kiss ass. He knows I’m packing. He knows I’m leaving and I am done.