Is a hoe phase a bad idea?

I’m in a very deep hatred for myself due to a bad relationship. My friend said however to take this as a blessing and start going on random dates and if sex happens it happens. To just take it Day by day and get free food ( this part made my night.) she said it will help me find what I want in a man and I will find out what I like sexually

However I am scared to have Sex with people , I mean I’ve done it before but I don’t know...it’s just the what if’s, I don’t want to go on dates because I’m shy as hell. I really want to find someone who actually cares about me and I’m halfway tempted to Listen to my friend about the “ hoe phase.” She’s now married with two kids and I’m sorta jealous. Is that a bad thing? I feel awful for being jealous. But I’m tired of being the single and lonely cat aunt.