Regret moving abroad for my husband, need advice please

My husband always said that we would move where it was best for both of us. We discussed the his home country, Germany, may not be the right fit for me or turn out not the best place to settle. Before we even moved here, we discussed trying to see if there was a way to set up a lucrative job for me in Germany. I was very ambitious and thought I could master the language in a couple yrs and get a job in my career (speech therapy). I basically need to be a native speaker which makes sense.

We move to Germany for my husbands work and to be closer to his family. It makes sense and I don’t mind at all living anywhere for my husband to advance in his career. We lived in the states before that for 8 yrs and he easily could found a job and speaks fluent english I would like to add.

We have been here almost 3 yrs and it’s very clear that I’m not going to be realistically able to master the language.. nor do I think the salary isn’t even comparable to what I would make in an English speaking country.

Now my husband has changed his mind and thinks I should try to figure something else out to do here... he is constantly looking for houses to buy (we can’t afford on one salary). I was furious this morning at him because he made a joke “‘mommy is too proud to work from the bottom and find a career here” damn right I’m proud... I worked my ass off to get my masters. Long sleepless nights for 2 yrs and 80k in loans to ensure that I would easily find a job. I told him it’s only fair that I want the chance to use and develop my career. I actually would have opportunity working in the US military in germany if I could get more experience in an English speaking country. He still is stuck on my immersing myself in whatever job I can find. I currently work evenings (7-1130) as a teletherapist and I’m thankful + watch our 18 month old full time.

I dont know what to do... his family is now pressuring me too saying I’ll never master the language if I don’t find a job requiring me to speak the language. I’ve taken months 4 hrs a day of German and I dont think I could primarily speak that language at work still.

I just feel totally disrespected and my husband didn’t tell the truth. I’m not sure what to do because I think it’s becoming more clear he wants to settle here and I don’t. I don’t think it’s the best lifestyle or set up. There are so many other reasons too. I thought we would have more family support and my MIL is very absent, I also miss home for many many reasons, the main being I have a huge supportive family.

I don’t know what to do... sorry this was longer than expected